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    AandIsnana posted:
    My 23 yr old daughter has a 5 yr old and 2 yr old. She drives around until sometimes 1 am with them and her friends, doing what I don't know. I tell her they should be home in bed and she says she doesn't want a curfew. I said when you decided to have kids you gave yourself the curfew and it's not fair to those little ones to be out that late driving around. And I'm sure its no fun for them to sit in a car all day and night. How do I explain it to my daughter so she really understands.
     
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    mommycdg responded:
    It is obvious that she is not at a time in her life where she is ready to give up her own life for her children's life. And not be to be rude, but seems like she is being very selfish...could you offer to keep the children? I do not know what your situation is or anything...it just seems like at this time the children may be better off with someone else? Is there a father in the picture?
     
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    Zaysmama replied to mommycdg's response:
    I would agree with mommycdg in saying that her choices do seem very selfish.
    I am a 22yr old single mom of DS(2)... so I know where she is coming from, but at the same time, I hardly ever go out or do anything. My mother tried to regulate who I had my son around and that caused problems, so I also know this can be a very touchy subject.
    The best advice that I can give is to not turn the issue on her... don't turn the conversation into an argument and try not to make her feel like she is a bad mother. She may be the best mother in the world but is making some selfish choices. talk to her about going out only once a week or so, and try to find times that someone else can keep the kids. ...

    I wish you, your daughter, and the grandkids the best of luck! Hopefully it all gets figured out without any arguments, because thats another thing the kids don't need to witness!


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