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    leaf85 posted:
    Hello. I have a bf who has been on subs for about 5 months now. Recently in the past 2 weeks something has changed and he isn't "the same". It is like I live with a zombie. This isn't the man I fell in love with and I don't know what is going on. Of course he gets defensive if I even speak of subutex but I think he is either abusing them or taking too much. Can someone please help? I want my boyfriend back. This is breaking my heart
    Anon_158160 responded:
    Unfortunately, if your boyfriend is truly addicted, there is nothing you can do to stop his abuse. You can, however, take care of yourself.
    See if there are 12-Step meetings for you in your area - either AlAnon or NarAnon. Finding others who are going through what you are can lessen the pain and also offer options for you to do what you need to take care of your own needs.
    Take care.
    editor_morgan responded:
    Hi leaf85,

    You should encourage your boyfriend to seek treatment. A subutex addiction can be very dangerous and so are withdrawals from that drug once someone is dependent.

    Here are treatment options for someone suffering from an addiction to prescription pain pills .

    Why Therapy Can Help

    Maintaining Hope and Health During Drug Abuse Recovery --I suggest that you place a heavy focus on the Family, Friends & Recovery section. It states that the addicted person's loved ones also undergo a recovery process. Do not place such a emphasis on your boyfriend and in the process, ignore yourself. Your health and mental well-being are of utmost importance as well.

    You cannot force someone to get treatment but you can set boundaries, which not only benefit your boyfriend but also protects you getting caught in the cross hairs of his addiction.

    WedMD Community Moderators are unable to give medical advice or a diagnosis so I highly suggest that you consult both a medical doctor, who will be able to provide medical assistance to your boyfriend with the physical withdrawals from the drug, and a mental health professional, who will help to begin the road to recovery for the both of you.

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