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Am I crazy??

SarahRN_ttc posted:

We've been TTC for about three months. I know that is nothing in the world of TTC, but I'm already so frustrated! Last month I was getting really excited because I was almost 2 weeks late, and then I got the mother of all periods. It feels like every negative test is the end of the world. When I see pregnant women or women with babies, I am of course happy and excited for them...but I can't help but hate them a little bit. I'm trying to stay positive and not get too upset, but I can't help it!! Is this normal, or am I just crazy?

ShadowButtersJetta responded:

It is quite normal! Are your periods regular? It seems weird that you were two weeks late. Is that normal?

citjt2005 responded:

I don't think you are crazy, you are just anxious, just so many of us. It is like waiting for a special moment that seems to take forever. I just wonder, why you were two weeks late? I wonder whether or not your cycle changed. Good luck and hope to hear in your nest post that you have conceived. Julia :wink:

Wanna_be_a_mommy09 responded:

This is normal your not crazy. It happens to some women out there including me I want a little one soo badly so all i'm doing is keeping my head up and be patient I know my day will come soon. I just pray to God and hope I have a miracle soon. :grin:

kymberleea responded:

No you are not crazy. After several cycles have you sought the help of a DR? Maybe you are having unknown issues and that is the reason why you are not pregnant. I have been on clomid on and off for about a yr and I did conceive with it but then I lost it. So this past month I tried it and am hoping for a BFP soon. I said all of that to say, maybe you need the help and its ok to ask. I know the feeling of the "end of the world", I have been trying so long and I cry when I have to go to the OBGYN. Just seeing those girls! This board is therapeutic for me. I hope you get your BFP really really soon! :lightsmile:

greatdane5 responded:

Hi, I have a really similar situation. I was 11 days late and was feeling hopeful. . .then like you said "the mother of all periods" came and tried to kill me. I have always been regular with my cycle, I have no idea what caused the change. I felt really sad when AF arrived, but hubby and I are looking for hope, which can be found in the next O days. :sillygrin:

2nd_Timer responded:

This reply is a little late, but maybe you'll still get it. When I was TTC my first after about 4 months I was about 10 days late - and I am NEVER late - then had an AWFUL period. It *might* have been a fertilized egg that did not take (sometimes called a chemical pregnancy if you got a BFP. I didn't with mine). No way to tell for sure, but I took it as a good sign that things were "working" properly. After 10 months of TTC I used an OPK, and two months later got my first BFP! (I ended up with a MC, but that's not related...). Before calling your doctor I would try the OPK. You are correct that three months is not long when TTC, even though it feels like forever. Good luck!!

mommy_time responded:

Have u been tracking your ovulation phases? I have been using this one kit called Ovu-trac that tracks ovulation with changes in your saliva. U can buy it online: www.ovu-trac.com It's reusable so u can use it over and over. We are TTC in the fall so I can give birth next summer and we are using this kit as of now to get used to it. It's pretty neat and easy. I think knowing your cycles is key so u have plan sex accordingly. But most of all do not stress out!! Breathe!!

mojomillie5 responded:

I understand how you feel. Here are a few thoughts that I have had...I try and understand my feelings at times like this. I tell myself it's OK to feel bad. I also try and remind myself that my situation is different than someone elses. I try to separate it a bit. Then, I try to understand my feelings are not terrible. I am not mean. I am not evil. I am usually very happy for others. My bad luck does not mean I want others to have the same experience. I want good things to happen to others. In doing this I know I feel jealous, and not envious. I would like what others have. But, that doesn't mean I don't want them to have things. I hope this makes sense and helps you out a bit. Hugs.

Rose62307 responded:

You are not crazy!!!! I know exactly where you're coming from. My husband and I have been TTC for almost 2yrs as of next wk!!!!! I have 3 friends that are pregnant right now and when I think about it, I do get Angry sometimes. I don't want to feel that way so I try to be as positive and happy as I can for them. I don't ovulate properly and I am 38yrs old so I feel like conceiving needs to happen Soon!!! I know that everything happens in GOD's timing, but I know how you feel when you want something So Bad and you want people to see you pregnant too!!!!! Don't Give Up!!!! I have Many spells of :crying:, so just understand that you're not crazy, but just wanting to experience the same same joys as others. You can see my desire as well!!!! Hope this helps!!!! Me (38) Husband (46) Sincerely, Rosie

Daisy83808 responded:

I remember crying at 3 month because all my friends were pregnant. It's been a year a a half and I'm still crying! It is definately NOT crazy to be upset. This is such an emotional and personal thing. Anger and sadness are common emotions. Take comfort in knowing that 80% of couples conceive in the first 12 months. Unless you know you have problems such as PCOS or endometriosis, most doctors will have you wait for 12 months before they see you about infertility. Hang in there, and G/L!

P046304 responded:

I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN TRYING SINCE JAN . BOTH OUR FAMILY ARE PREGNANT 2 ON MY SIDE AND THREE ON HIS... IT MAKES ME SO MAD CUZ 2 OF THEM ARE 16&17 ITS LIKE Y CANT I .. I AM MARRIED HAVE A HOME OF MY OWN WHATS WORNG WITH ME HOW CAN THESE GIRLS GO OUT AND GET PREGNANT NO PROBLEM... YOU ARE NOT CRAZY IN THE LEAST IT JUST FEELS LIKE EVERYONE IS GETTIN SOMETHING YOU ARENT AND IT COMPLETELY SUCKS AND YOU JUST WANT TO HIDE... I HOPE THINGS GET BETTER FOR YO AND GOOD LUCK ON TRYIN TO BECOME PREGNANT !!! ONCE AGAIN IKNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL

beachmommy5406 responded:

Wow! You are so not crazy. This happened to me last summer. I was over 3 weeks late...took so many home pregnancy tests...all negative. I did decide to see a doctor because in addition to this strange "first missed period in 18 years other than when I was preggos with my son", my hubby and I had been trying to get pregnant for over a year. I kept seeing pregnant women EVERYWHERE thinking "were there this many pregnant women last summer when I wasn't hoping to be pregnant?" Of course there was. I read on this exchange some one wrote that we only see happy pregnant women...we don't see the struggles they had in getting there. That gave me hope that my turn will come again (if it's meant to be). We of course found out I have other reasons that I'm not getting pregnant and we're working on correcting it.

Best of luck to you! Keep us posted...it will happen!

fanficactress responded:

Hun, you're not crazy. Believe me, I was in the same boat as you and I still am. I know there are people who have been trying alot longer than me, but I have been trying for about a year and a half and I continually get frustrated and angry at myself. But I was diagnosed with PCOS and that causes infertility.

I also hate seeing people with babies and being pregnant because the only thought that goes through my head is "That could be my child that I should be pregnant with" or even the people who are younger than me, that were in my high school graduating class, who have kids with me, and I of course hate them. I do wish everyone the greatest happiness in their lives, but don't worry, if you're crazy, then I'm crazy too. lol

Good luck to you, hun. I hope you have better luck than what I've found out in the past year and you have a bundle of joy soon. :)

nordygirl33 responded:

you are not crazy at all. I go through this every day and it's so hard. These feelings are all normal.

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